What would you say to your mom??

HELP ME PLS!!





My mom just finnished puting braids in my hair last night....it took 5 hours. I love my mother to death. She is a really sweet lady. She never complains, she is always sacrificing to do for others.





She wants to do her hair just like mine, but she is 53 and I'm 20. My mom looks really good for her age, but I feel that if she puts cochet braids in her hair it will make her look odd and older than what she really is. What I got looks really hot, but It wouldn't on my mom. I want her to look like a lawyer or a doc. you know, a professional, b/c she is. She is a nurse. When I get to that age I want to be looking like a queen, not a princess of her youth.





I tried to stop her but she would say things like..." It wll keep my head warm in the winter" and " It may not look right but it feels right...I don't like hats"


I don't want my mom to hide under a hat or crochet braids. It is only acceptable for a young person to wear. Its equivalent to platform flip flop

What would you say to your mom??
Why not go to the store and purchase a couple of hair style magazines and find a photo or two of flattering hairstyles for your mom, and tell her that you think she would look younger (key word here) and more together (another key word) if she'd get her hair done like that. Good luck, and God bless you for being such a sweet daughter!
Reply:My mom died when I was 12....let her do what she wants and tell her she's beautiful.
Reply:When I get to that age I want to be looking like a queen, not a princess of her youth.- I love that, that's exactly it! You sound like a lovely family, you don't want her to be embarrassed. And yes, it's = to platform shoes with blinking lights in the bottom.





I am 30, and I don't wear a lot of the kid's stuff even now- I am more argyle sweaters and pinstripe suits (I work w/ kids, so I REALLY do have to differentiate, or they think we're idiots trying to be like them).





I get it, a lady looks elegant and professional if she dresses her age, but silly if she acts your age. We look younger when we're not trying to look like the 20 somethings.





I'm Latina (but white), by the way, so I am going by my professional girlfriends here: a nice bob, a more sedate braid, my cousin (not white) went with a long, soft curl- she's stunning. Look at actresses in the same age range, and suggest. Remind her how gorgeous she is, and how you admire her for being a beautiful, strong, professional woman- I am also proud of my mom for these reasons.





But, if mom insists, there's not much you can do. I think it's sweet that she wants to be like you. I am also very close to my mom, and at 30, am finally at the age where dressing alike (she's in the same profession) is totally OK.
Reply:At your moms age she does not care about how fashionable her hair is ..she wants something that is easily kept out of the way , and not covered up , you just said she does not care how it looks , she thinks it feels right ....one day you too will learn that trying to look "hot" no longer applies , and you will wonder why you wasted so much time trying when it really does not matter , when you get older it is about "comfort and convenience" and to h*ll with what others think looks good ..
Reply:Hahaha, you and I should go out some time! I have the same problem with my mom. Shes 45 and I am 21. I usually say "it's not your style" or "that's not the new 'in' thing, but this it". If worse comes to worse use the "You can't do that, it's bad mojo to match your daughter". Just make sure you give her some ideas. Take her to a beauty shop and ask to look at some books and mags for examples. Ask how much it would cost, then treat her to a "lady's day out" for doing your hair.





Good luck
Reply:Tough one but you put it very eloquently --"Mom, when I get to be your age, I want to be looking like a queen , not a princess of my youth" Then tell her you think the style is too young for her and suggest a solution. Look on line for styles and reassure your mom of all the love your feel for her, she sounds nice but needs a reality check.