How can I sweep this girl off her feet?Girls?(Guys I Guess)?

I really like this girl a lot, but the thing is, she is more concerned with her school work(HS)( I'm a senior in HS) which is something I admire, but I really think that she is the girl for me. I just want someone to call my lady and someone I can hug in the winter, you know?


I'm tired of being a hopeless romantic. She is everything I have wanted in a girl, she is smart, attractive and has the sweetest voice and she isn't full of herself. She is slightly younger than me(roughly two years) but I can work around that. What can I say to her to make her like me? I am all out of ideas(or at least good ones).


What do you ladies like to hear from a guy that makes you like him? All helpful answers appreciated. Help me out here!!


Every time I think I have the right thing to say, it usually turns into mumbling.

How can I sweep this girl off her feet?Girls?(Guys I Guess)?
you have to respect that she is dedicated to her schoolwork. assure her that while grades are important she will regret it later if that is all she gets out of high school (i know because i did that in high school and college. i definately regret missing out on the chance to make stronger friendships and hang out with great people instead of just my dusty old textbooks.) tell her she can get her work done and hang out with you. tell her that she needs to take breaks sometimes and have some fun and it will help her do better at her work.





do you just want a girl or do you want her? if any old girl would do that might be turning most girls off. do not you want to feel special and cared about not because you are a warm body or a guy but because you are you? she does too. if you do not like her for who she is it might be hard if not impossible to win her heart. unless she is looking for a companion but you have to be honest with her and yourself about what you want and what your intentions are. if your feelings change that is understandable it is a part of life but you got to be truthful.





remember there is not some magic formula that can be said to make a girl attracted to you. every girl is impressed and drawn to different things. if you know what she likes you are more likely going to be able to get her attention. and make sure you are yourself because if you pretend to be something you are not you are doomed to fail because she will figure it out/find out. she would feel betrayed, be unable to trust you, and want nothing to do with you.





you are a sweet guy. let her see the real you. respect her. show her that you can fit in her world and not only can you fit in it you will make it even better.





there is not anything a guy says to make me like him. i just do i am attracted to his looks or personality given how we met. it is his personality that will make me want to stay and be with him and not some other guy. a sweet caring understanding guy who listens to me. a guy who wants to be with me and is honest. a guy who treats me with dignity and respect.





what do girls like to hear. i like to hear the truth. i like to hear what he thinks about things. i like to hear him talk about his passions/interests/hobbies. i like to hear about his day.





what does a girl want her the guy she likes to say. that he likes/loves her. that he likes how she looks. that he admires what she does. that he supports her interests even if he will not do them if he encourages her independence and individuality by supporting her hobbies it is a major turn on. that he will be there for her and is committed to her. that he will support her dreams. granted there are some things that are appropriate any time but others are better for when the two have known each other awhile.





for some people it is not the words it is their actions that speak much louder. i like nice words and all but if the actions do not match then forget it then it is just a bunch of crap. my father can talk about all this great stuff but his follow through and sincerity left much to be desired, so for me sadly words can be weak generally it is the action that gets my attention and convinces me of something. you might want to consider reading or skimming the five love languages by gary chapman, phD. the five love languages are: acts of service, gifts, physical affection, words of affirmation, and quality time. if you try to woo her with words but that is not her thing you might just wind up wasting your time and energy because she will not be getting the message you are intending.





your biggest challenge might be convinving her she can be with you and achieve her academic goals. also realize she might not care what you say and might be more concerned with what you do.





best wishes!
Reply:It's always...What can I say to get her to like me".


Have you ever thought that maybe the problem isn't the words, its you?


I'm not saying u suck but because of society you're probably like most guys and suffering from the following symptoms:


Giving women you like everything you can


Trying to impress women (this includes trying to say something to get her to like u)


Being needy and wanting her to love you


Not giving her any space


Letting women control you





If any of those things you can relate to its something you need to fix. Because no girl likes any of those things unless shes got really low self esteem.





Get her to like you...don't try anything. Just be who you really are. The REAL you, not the real you. Big difference.


REAL YOU= The way you really are without all those social personas and masks you develop to prevent being caused anxiety from peers


real you= the fake way guys act around girls...overly nice, giving compliments, etc etc.





See, when guys are all nice to women they're usually being really fake because they're not like that in real life. They're trying to impress her. Be the REAL you and do with her what you would do with your closest friend. If you pay for your friends dinner, pay for hers. Otherwise, she can pay herself.
Reply:Sometimes the written word is a lot more powerful than speech. You get to say everything on your mind, proofread it, perfect it and speak from your heart. You can't make her like you but you can let her know you like her. You just said such nice things about her to the rest of the world. Why not say it to her. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you don't appeal to her, move on and don't brood about her. Sounds like you have very good taste. I hope it works out in your favor.
Reply:since she is a few years younger than you, offer to help her on her homework. talk and hang out for a while to create a friendship first, then take her out star gazing after a night of homework or on the weekend and tell her the stories of the stars. make them up if needed, it still steals a girls heart. even better if it is a colder night, because then, most likely she will get cold and want to cuddle to get warmer. every girl loves a guy who takes them star gazing. good luck!
Reply:offer to help her with her homework. go out of the way to make sure she is feeling good and not stressed. if you're thinking flowers and love poems, well that's nice but kinda overrated.
Reply:ask her out or if your scared get ur friends to go to the movies together or out to eat trust me all a girl wants is a nice guy to go out with and you sound like one Hope I could Help =)
Reply:That's a tough one, the one and only..





If you like a challenge, then I'd say give it a go.





Though you could also consider that someone would seek you out for warmth and affection. It's not necessarily incumbent on a guy to pursue a girl. There has to be some kind of back and forth that both of you are sparked by.. not just one of you.





This girl you write about sounds like she's not thinking about that back and forth. It sounds like she's occupied right now. I'd let her do what makes her happy and then keep an eye out for someone I can share a smile with.





Best luck.