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what should i do? my gf broke up with me after this arguement. she claims that cant go anymore with this cause when i get angry i insult her verbally. i got angry over a email i wrote to her last night which i spent 1 hour n 1/2 on.tell her thing like "my sunshine that clear my darkest skies.my shinning star.my superwoman that rescue me.the most beautifulest rose my garden..the sweetest candy in my candy bowl.the only glowing star in my horizon.my sunshine in the summer..my survivor in the fall..my warmth in the winter..my blossom in the spring..n finally my love. " i sat there thinking of these thing for over an hour.i got upset after i realize she read the email and never reply saying "thank you" alteast.she manage to write me a message on my myspace after reading the email but didnt reply to my email sayin thanks..this upset me alot because this

What should i do?
First thing you should do is take an English class. What the hell is "beautifulest"????


Next, get over your insecurities. So she didn't say "thanks". BIG DEAL!


Grow up, learn to speak and write the language properly, and, um, grow up.
Reply:maybe she thinks you're smothering her? try backing off for a bit
Reply:and how long have u been dating her? could you possibly have scarred her?
Reply:some people they don't like too sweet because they think it's weird talk to her normally maybe she'll be OK with that.
Reply:So did you insult her after you were upset that she didn't respond? There's no law that says she has to be your girlfriend, if she doesn't want to be with you then get over it, there's nothing you can do.





P.S. - If you are insulting to girls/women, you better get used to being dumped.
Reply:Anger is not an emotion.. it is a response -- almost always a response to fear (whether or not consciously acknowledged.) So you have a need for her acknowledgment that she didn't provide. The unmet need triggers abandonment issues, which trigger fear. Our "fears" are real or imagined; they are rational or not; the are useful or un-productive.





The "fear" should be a warning sign of an un-met need. So don't respond to the fear, but to the un-met need, and you must determine how important is the need? Is it even real? or maybe transferance? Once you know the 'need' .... you can CHOOSE how to respond.





If you can work thru this yourself, great. But I needed help to learn that I have a choice in how I react to things, and that my actions were always consistent with my assumptions which were based on my beliefs. You see, I believe I'm hot $#!* and assume other people think so, too. And when the don't react the way I want them to, then either they are wrong or I am wrong. I never want to look at myself, so I took the easy path - it was THEM. Not me! Do you see the weak point in my logic? Well, I do, too. And my life is much happier now.
Reply:Let her miss you....You sound like a mushy mushy kind of guy...My suggestion is cool off the mushy stuff, and let her miss you a bit. Do your own thing, don't pick-up her call every time she calls. Wait 2-3 days to reply to her emails. approach the relationship nonchalantly, and get the reaction you want. However, know games are not best for real love, you may want to just invest in a relationship with a woman who would appreciate your mushy side.
Reply:Did you complement her only to receive praises yourself? Do you verbally abuse her? Just because you write a flowery email doesn't mean you are a man of character and integrity if you turn around and berate her for not reciprocating.





So what that you spent a hour and a half giving her fancy words when your actions don't back them up. That means they are fluff. Empty. Hollow. If she were my daughter and you talked ugly to her I would advise her to have nothing to do with you and I would advise her father to see a face to face meeting with you.





You need to remember that she is someones precious child and your have no business verbally insulting her.