I feel lost and confused, what should i do?

i'm feeling really sad right now. i got rejected by a girl two weeks ago. i did really nice things to her. i gave her a birthday present which was a cake, a Sweet 16 candle, and a birthday card. she seemed to like it and she gave me a big hug. i gave her chocolate when she was sick along with a note. i encouraged her that she would do better in a class. well, she's in one of my classes and i baked the muffins for the whole class. she didn't eat a muffin because she was mad about duke losing to pittsburgh in basketball.





she is a great person even though she's a bit immature and she's been to disney world 13 times. she's very similar to me and that's why i'm still drawn to her. she has no guy friends at school. she idolizes Jason Wade from Lifehouse and Nick Jonas. i wish i was them for one day.





i want to ask out 1 hot girl to a winter formal that i don't know. i have a good friend who's best friends with the hot girl. i want a gf but i dk how to get one even though i'm considerate

I feel lost and confused, what should i do?
It seems you are going through a rough time,,, It is life,, one challenge after another and don't feel like the lone ranger. I am an American living in the Middle East and my hosts told me years ago that if you do something nice for anyone,, to throw it in the river. Let it go. It seems that you are a sincere, inexperienced young man. One more thing they thought me is that most women don't get too attracted to desperate men. You have treated her with kindness and you said a very important aspect of one girl,, "immature" and yes,, in many ways, you have noticed that about her. And no,, no way,, no how,, no way Jose,, you are not as similar to her as you think you two are. And no way do you want to be someone you are not. You need to be your own person. You need to establish your own identity. That is a huge problem with society now that most people are not happy with who they are so they try to be someone else,, usually someone we know of on TV, in movies,, on the spotlight. Believe me and you can read about it in the newspapers and you will know that even those most people admire are not happy,, some,, they are not happy with who they are. So be yourself and so far from what I can tell because you seem to be quite open unashamed of who you are and you tell the world about your present challenges,, it means that you are honest with yourself and of course honest with other people. There is nothing wrong with that generally speaking. Yes sometimes we don't want to shake our dirty laundry in public and you need to just think about that. You are a caring person and you tend to like and I say the word,, "like" people in general and you are accepted by most,, but you are trying to get people,, in this case a couple of girls to notice you and to appreciate what you did or are doing for them. Look,, one day,, you will come across a girl,, the girl who will make you happy,, one who you will learn to love her for who she is not because of whom you want her to be. For now, you will develop a crush here and there,, it happens to all of us and at your age it happens more I think than any other time in your life. Do have patience with those who you think don't appreciate you but most of all,, have patience with yourself,, and by the way,, that girl you made cupcakes for and how your treated her during her illness,, one day she will wake up and for sure with 100 percent certainty,, she will appreciate what you did. So not to worry. Hang tough but don't change your kindness for others. There are more takers than givers and honestly speaking,, in the long run, it is better to give than to receive. A giver is a much better person than a taker.
Reply:YOU CAN'T BUY LOVE! Buying gifts for a girl doesn't make her like you romantically or any more than she does, she will only like your gifts; period. It's nice of you to do all that but seriously now, you shouldn't try so hard just be nice but not too nice because girls usually take advantage of nice guys and don't usually appreciate them.





A cooler girl will catch your eye and maybe the one you like right now will realise what she missed out on. Don't force matters and don't stress yourself, for you have many more years to have fun. Keep on smiling. :-)
Reply:Seems to me that she is to childish and immature to take a hint
Reply:Where the hell were you when *I* was 13?





You just wait, sweetie...when she matures, she'll see you ina different light. If not her, then someone hotter. But let me give you a tip..."beauty is in the eye of the beholder", so what you think is hot may not be hot to someone else. Shes only hot to you. And trust me on this - someday you're going to find a girl who will put her to SHAME and she will appreciate you. Don't rush it. Enjoy being young....because you're only young for a little while. You're old forever. And that one who is going to think that you're hot even when you're old is still out there somewhere....so don't push it. Let it go and what you deserve, what you really want, will come to you when karma says its ready and not before, so don't stress about it.
Reply:Lost and confused---so are millions of other kids your age---it is just a natural thing to overreact to the teen years--new changes, new emotions, new hormones----relax, things will straighten out. You did some nice stuff for that girl--see it as a guy doing something nice--not a reason to expect her to date you---do things for the right reasons and you will always be appreciated. maybe she is not allowed to date---maybe she has NO desire to date---maybe she has an idea of what kind of guy she is looking for and you are not it. Hey--that's life--no reason NOT to be nice to her or anyone else. No rule says a cake rates a date. No rule says you have to date by 16. All guys want that HOT girl--that is your raging hormones---you know it only happens in the movies--HOT girl at a dance and the guy scores like an experienced pro----that will NOT happen. You need to find a nice girl who appreciates you---and you have to show respect and courtyesy, and confidense and honor. You can't buy love--and you can't expect to have love without working at it....so go home---get you hair cut and washed--wash your face and hands, BRUSH your teeth, dress like a mature 16 year old, talk like an educated person, stand tall and be friendly--say hi and smile to people. Time is moving on--so wait--let nature take its course---ask a nice girl to this dance--be a nice guy and relax and have fun--be a real gentleman and don't be a jerk. This is all what is called MATURITY. It has nothing to do with Disney, or music, or looks, or cakes, or muffins--that is stuff you do for fun and you enjoy it. Social stuff happens because you are mature and attractive and respectful. Good luck to you
Reply:wow.....it seems to me like your meaning of "hot" is a little immature......no offense, but has she given u any signs?.....um try to stop buying things for people, and try to gain their friendship first. Just wanting a "GF" is a really lame excuse for some of the things you are doing. You seem really nice, but u need to show that ur not some pushover either...
Reply:Quit being so nice,your a guy,get in there and tear it up
Reply:I think you should move on, you provided her with lots of stuff and yet she still doesn't appreciate it. You'll find another girl soon. Just relax and let girls come to you or just find somebody that's crazy about you.
Reply:Just ask, you'll never know until you try and from my own viewpoint, I get slightly irritated and a little unsure of myself when I find out that a guy liked me and never asked me out.





If she wants to go out with you, she'll say yes, and if she says no, just smile and be nice. You'll get over it and believe me, there's a girl in your school that likes you, there always is.





Good luck!