Help! Dilemma over my boyfriend(s)?

Boy #1: Been with him for 5 years, now in a long distance relationship. He’s smart, outgoing, funny, and caring… he even volunteers over 20 hours a week. My parents don’t like him because his family is weird. Thing is, I don’t quite feel the same about him… I don’t know if I’ve fallen out of love with him or what. We also had plans to get engaged soon, so maybe cold feet?





Boy #2: Met him in August after going to a new college. He’s really sweet and very smart, and in better shape. My parents haven't met him yet. He’s an engineering major like me and also in the university honors college. I thought he was just my best friend, but over winter break, I started thinking about him a lot. Then yesterday on the first day back, he kissed me. I still don’t know how I feel about it, especially since I’m still technically “taken”.





Should I dump one for the other? or see how things go? I don't want to be a cheater, so I'm confused about what to do next. I would love your advice here!

Help! Dilemma over my boyfriend(s)?
My advice is to take a step back from both boys!!!! Your relationship with No1 is obviously feeling the strain of the distance between you both and perhaps your fear of getting engaged etc.





No2 shouldn't have kissed you if he knows about your boyfriend but sometimes these things just happen.





Take some time to yourself for now, explain to both men that you need space to think over your options!!
Reply:what does around comes around, always.





do whatever.
Reply:Boy #1 It seems you are pressured by your parents to get rid of one who you love and enjoyed his company.


Boy #2 You are the one dumbing him by chooice.





You are selfcentred person because you dont care the feeling of one. If you trully say you are in love its better to be in love with the first one and dont mess your self regardless of what your parents say.


Let me ask you if you take boy #2 home and your parents dislike him will you also dislike him?


Its better you reconcille with the first one if you still love him inside and I believe when your parents know your choice then they will respect you for your decision.
Reply:Before you do anything, you should tell Boy #1 everything. Even up to the kiss. I would suggest trying to actually meet him somewhere (I understand it's long-distance, but this is important), instead of over the phone or email or whatever. He deserves to know and you owe it to him.





Definately see what he has to say. He might break up with you right then and there, problem solved! He might understand and realize the relationship isn't going to work. It actually might even make your relationship stronger. Who knows?





Then go talk to Boy #2. Depending on what Boy #1 says, you might have to "break-up" with him. Did he even know you had a boyfriend when he kissed you? Or did you kiss him? It's not right either way (unless he didn't know!).





Sorry that I wrote so much, but I was just trying to answer your question how I would do it. I think this way, less people are getting hurt. Good luck.





nicole
Reply:rahul
Reply:Well you are a cheater now so deal with it. You need to tell your other BF what you've done and let him decide if you're worthy of being with. You're not even thinking about his feelings. You're being selfish. I'm not trying to be harsh but I think you need to hear the truth. You don't have a choice as to who you will be with. You should tell both men the truth and they need to be in on the decision making process. Confess to your current bf what you have done. Tell the new guy that you have a BF and right now you need to work some things out with him.